Becoming Her: The Woman I Promised Myself I’d Be

There comes a moment in every woman’s life when she looks in the mirror and realizes she’s ready to stop waiting — for permission, for timing, for everything to feel “right.”

Or maybe she’s reached the point where she doesn’t even recognize herself anymore. She feels unhappy, drowning, and stuck in a life that has lost its meaning — like a slave to her family, to others’ expectations, and to society’s pressures.

For years, I spoke about the woman I wanted to become — graceful, confident, balanced, free, powerful, loving. But for a long time, she felt distant. I kept saying, “One day,” until I realized that becoming her wasn’t something that would magically happen — it was a choice I had to make daily.

I was allowing life to happen to me, instead of taking charge of my present and future. I relied on others to make decisions for me or to somehow rescue me from drowning. I did this for so long that my life slowly became my nightmare.

I was miserable — a single mother of two young children, living in a toxic environment, putting up with things no woman should ever have to endure. I stayed there so long that I began to resent myself for allowing it all to happen.

That was my breaking point.

Sometimes in life, you have to reach the point where you are so sick of your own patterns — so tired of being the victim, so exhausted and depleted — that you finally decide to take action. You have to hit your rock bottom to realize that no one is coming to save you. It’s you. It’s always been you.

Your happiness is your responsibility — and yours alone.

🌿 Becoming Her Meant

• Letting go of who I used to be.

• Releasing the people-pleasing, the self-doubt, and the survival mode.

• Replacing old stories with new standards.

• Showing up for myself even when it felt uncomfortable — through messy mornings, healing nights, and moments of pure uncertainty.

She wasn’t waiting for a perfect life - She was waiting for me to step into my power.Once I did, everything began to shift.

✨ Becoming Her Looks Like

• Setting boundaries without guilt.

• Speaking kindly to yourself.

• Choosing consistency over motivation.

• Walking away from chaos, even when it feels familiar.

• Believing you are already enough — even while you’re growing.

• Radical acceptance of your past and present.

• Understanding that growth isn’t linear — it’s lifelong.

• Truly wanting it, envisioning it, and meaning it with every fiber of your being.

🌷 A Reminder

You don’t become her overnight. You evolve into her through every act of grace, discipline, and self-respect.

She’s not a different version of you — she’s the truest version of you, waiting beneath everything you’ve been told you have to be.

Keep showing up for her.
She’s already proud of you. 💫